Dealing with a breakup or lost love is often said to be one of the most challenging things a person will go through. There are lots of ups and downs, from not believing it’s over, to being furious, feeling low and then finally coming to terms with the end of the relationship.

Although everyone manages heartbreak in their own way, many people find that time is a great healer. Some individuals also benefit from taking guidance around love and break-ups from astrologers who specialize in relationships.

Below are a few handy suggestions for coping with lost love:

• Give yourself permission to mourn: Feeling unhappy or shedding tears following a breakup is completely normal. Rather than trying to bottle things up, allow yourself space to work through whatever emotions come up.
• Don’t go it alone: Now’s the time to lean on family members and friends for companionship as well as moral support. They can offer sympathy, distractions when you need them most— and maybe even some laughs.

Find ways to channel your feelings: Whether it’s doing things you enjoy or getting your thoughts and feelings down on paper or canvas, activities like these can be surprisingly therapeutic. (There’s a good reason why they say “better out than in”!)